In life, there are challenges that everyone faces along the way that are set there to learn from. Whether it’s getting fired, getting a bad haircut, or getting dumped, they all have one thing in common.
They all suck.
I’m sure there’s a more eloquent way of saying that, but what it boils down to is that sometimes these things just suck.
When you get fired, there’s a feeling of failure and fear when you ask “what now?” It’s a change, and in an economy like this (though it seems a bit better), change like job loss is terrifying. It doesn’t just affect you, but it affects your bank account and your livelihood.
A bad haircut doesn’t seem to be as important as job loss, but as a female, I know that a bad haircut can lead to frustrating mornings that may or may not end in tears and throwing the brush across the bathroom, which sometimes leads the boyfriend to ask about a certain monthly visitor (I would say or girlfriend, but no girl is dumb enough to ask that question in this moment). So, after the question is posed, there’s pretty much no way out of some sort of confrontation with the beast with the bad hair.
Getting dumped is on this list because it’s like getting fired in your personal life. There’s a feeling of failure and fear when you ask “what now?” The only difference is that when you get fired from a job, you get to go home and separate yourself from it. When you get dumped, you get to go home and look at all the things that remind you of them (don’t say you don’t.. everyone does).
It’s even worse if you don’t know how or why things fell apart. A break-up that catches you off-guard makes people obsessive. “What did I do?” “What if I had done this differently?” “Was there someone else?” “I feel like such an idiot.” are all things that go through your head… I know, I’ve been there.
The thing is about all these: they all change something about you, and though change is terrifying, it’s not always a bad thing.
Aside from the haircut, getting fired and getting dumped can open you up to new experiences and show you a different way of living life.. if you’ll let them. You may find a job that you love more or that teaches you what your true passion in life is. Losing a relationship can open doors that you had closed yourself because it would/could have affected your relationship.
Don’t listen to the people that say to immediately pick yourself back up and get moving. Everyone handles things differently. Take your time; figure out you again. However, don’t let this life lesson tear your life apart. You are strong, and you will survive (just ask Gloria Gaynor).
Use these moments to find yourself, to build a “new and improved” you. It’s hard to do, but once you make it to the other side, it’s worth it.
No matter how many nights filled with bottles of wine (beer, liquor), sad (or empowering) songs, and tears it takes, you will be okay. In fact, there’s a chance you will be better… except for that haircut… go buy a nice looking hat for that.